Dare To Be Bold!

This piece was inspired by a few friends. These girlfriends of mine all are in search of boldness and I'm here to share my ideas on how they and my readers can DARE TO BE BOLD!!!!

"Cassie", called me a few days ago and told me that I needed to train her. Here I am racking my brain with what she was talking about until she proceeded to tell me..... Wendy's was the meeting place. Cassie sat down to eat her lunch and BAM, there he was, a fine specimen of a man. They made eye contact and it was obvious that they were into each other, but no one took the initiative to spark a conversation.

"Rachael", is a giving, dear and genuine person. Unfortunately, these are the kind of qualities that people take advantage of far too much. Rachael informed me she goes 30 minutes out of her way on an almost daily basis to drive her co-worker home. This ungrateful b*tch never even offers a dime for gas! WTF?!? To make matters worse, one night last evening Rachael left work early due to illness and this demanding co-worker of hers insisted that she come back for her! Sadly, Rachael went and regretted doing so.

"Dana", recently informed me that she was working on getting herself out there and being more assertive. She's a doll of a woman, but she's still finding a way to get more comfortable in social settings.

"Cynthia" is in love with a gentleman, but can't find the nerve to tell him. I mean she is in LOVE with him, to the point that her eyes well up with tears at just the sheer mention of his name. I think action needs to be taken, but who am I to force her.

To acquire boldness you need a few things. First up: CONFIDENCE: . Girlfriends, confidence is the first quality that needs to be added to your personal list of qualities. "Cassie" knew that if I were in her shoes while in Wendy's I would have told that man that I was interested and that I would have given him my phone number. My thing is this, what's the worse I'll hear, no? So the f**k what!! Life goes on and the earth will still keep spinning! Confidence can get the most unconventionally unattractive person noticed. Case in point, there's a Dominican dude in Walgreens that always gets my attention. He's about 100 pounds overweight, but his swagger is up. I went in Walgreens this morning for a few toiletries and saw him. Wouldn't you know that he gave me his number? The funny thing is, his weight is the last thing I thought about when I was face to face with him. His confidence and smile made me pocket his number; if we don't hook up romantically perhaps a friendship can blossom, you never know ;).

Next up, Assertiveness: . An assertive person conveys their message in a calm and confident way all the while maintaining eye contact and sounding in control. When men (that you're interested in) are confronted by an assertive, confident women, their interest is peaked! That's half the battle, you're in there! Work the charm that's innate in you ladies! Women have a way with the said and unsaid; we have a way with words and with body language. Use it! If you find that the person you're speaking to is not interested, don't fret. You may not his type and that's okay. There are other men out there, go on to the next guy!

Next, High Self-Esteem: . When an individual has high self-esteem it shows. They're not fixated on the negatives, but on the positives. Those with high self-esteem have come to the realization that they are not perfect (just like the rest of society) and they embrace their imperfections. I recall watching an episode of the Tyra Banks show and she advised her guest to look in the mirror on a daily basis to find one thing about themselves that they loved. She then proceeded to to tell this individual to add one new thing to that list once a month, for twelve months; Before they knew it, they'd have 12 things. This is a great way to start appreciating the great traits about yourself.

Finally, Laugh At Yourself: .
Laughing at yourself is cool and often causes others to laugh as well (unless you're just straight up crazy). A person who doesn't mind being the butt of a joke often exudes confidence. Take me for example, I was walking down the stairs in Grand Central Station without a care in the world when OOPS! My right heel caught in the left cuff of my pants and I fell down a few stairs, lol. Thankfully, the bannister I held onto for dear life broke my fall. I laughed hysterically and got up & proceeded to walk like I was still the s**t!

The point of this entire piece is that CONFIDENCE goes a hell of a long way. It can get you noticed by those who wouldn't necessarily give you the time of day. How else do you think beautiful woman wind up with unconventionally attractive men (who aren't rolling in dough) or vice versa? Confidence! Acquiring confidence takes some time (believe me I know since I had my bouts with it), but once it's acquired you'll notice the difference and so will those around you.

Ladies, get out there, try something new (a makeover, a dance class, a cooking class, etc.) and in the process learn something new about yourself and fall in love with it. Dare to be bold and I guarantee you, others will notice it too!