Internet Love

I found a prospective man, on the Internet of all places! Me being the skeptic that I am, was totally against Internet dating until a few months ago. I was against it because I thought there was a stigma associated with Internet dating, that stigma being the person using the Internet to find romance can't find it in the conventional way, in person. Besides that, you know what the consensus is about Internet love, there are all types of weirdos lurking there.

I had an experience with match.com that I didn't particularly take seriously. Two dear cousins, along with a mutual friend of one of my cousins decided to take a chance and used this website as an outlet to find love.

My cousin, "Jasmine", landed a cute guy (really cute), but that didn't last too long - NEXT! Our mutual friend, "Gaby", wound up communicating with a few men, but never really hit it off with anyone in particular. My other cousin, "Morgan", hit it off with someone. He was tall, dark and handsome (you know, what just about all of us want), educated and packin' (a big D that is - something else we all want). To top it all off, he was the owner of his own property, ching ching, JACKPOT! It seemed as though my dear Morgan had found her Mr. Right, WRONG! This dude was nothing more than a pretentious narcissist, NEXT! As for me and my match.com experience, where do I begin?

I didn't go into this new adventure with a defeatist attitude, but rather with an open mind so my expectations weren't too high. I wasn't asking for much, but Damn! I swear to God, almost all the men on this site are 5'8" or shorter, WTF? I'm 5'7" without shoes and 5'10" or taller with them. Therefore, I don't like short men and neither do my shoes. Sidebar: I sound a bit fastidious huh? Oh well! Needless to say I didn't really hit it off with anyone on match.com and the experience was no "skin off my back."

Besides match.com I gave Myspace a chance and boy was that a joke! I received a friend request from a gentleman. I found him attractive so I made him my "Myspace friend". We started communication over the Internet and after about two days we exchanged phone numbers. The vibe was cool offline so I suggested we meet in person. We met in Midtown and I was impressed - impressed that this man knew magic! How else could he make himself look so good online and so not good offline? He used his magical powers to lure me to Midtown that faithful night, but while in front of him he annoyed the hell out of me. After speaking with him for a few moments I knew that date was going to be over within two hours. I suggested we go to a local Cuban restaurant and do you know what this dude said? He told me that he just paid his rent and phone bill. I know good and well that I didn't ask him that, but I peeped his game. He was letting me know in so many words that he didn't have enough money to pay for my meal. It was all good. I spared him the embarrassment and proposed that we go Dutch this time around. While we dined I couldn't help but think how unsure he seemed of himself. He kept telling me how he couldn't believe I was single. I felt like saying, "believe it dumb ass", but I refrained from being rude. I ended the date off by telling him that it was getting rather late and that I'd better get home. We parted our separate ways and severed ties soon after. That was the end of my Myspace dating.

Onto the new phenom, e-Harmony. You've probably seen the great commercials for this website. It seems that there are a heap of couples who not only found love, but made commitments to each other in marriage. Someone very near and dear to my heart found love here. She found the best guy she's dated to date. Not only am I excited for her, but I'm excited for myself! To see someone so close to me find love after searching for a little while is refreshing. It makes me believe that love is still out there for the taking. "Tyler" has had a smile on her face since she's met him and that makes me happy. Tyler suggested I try e-Harmony, but I declined. I told myself that I wasn't going to look for love, it was going to find me.

Coming full circle, I started communication with someone on Facebook and it's been going exceptionally well. We share a mutual friend and that's probably the only reason I gave him a chance. He "poked" me and I decided to send him a message. After about a week of back and forth e-mails I am interested. He's ambitious, in school pursuing his masters in architecture, tall, funny, attractive and intriguing. I find myself actually looking forward to receiving his messages. I will see how the next few days go and I may just propose that we speak on the phone. Who knew? He made the first move by "poking" me and I may make the next move.... Stay tuned, I hope our first date isn't like "Lightning Struck Again, So Where's the Electricity", ha!