The Dating Game

I've been playing this game for the last two years. This is getting a bit monotonous at this point. I never thought I'd be one of those women to accept an invite to a social outing and ask "will there be men there?" - Ahhhhhhhhh, what has become of me? When did I become so, so desperate?

In continuation of the last piece: http://theinquisitive1.blogspot.com/2008/11/damn-it-man.html, that "somebody" never called. Here's the background on dude. As I was making my way to class last Wednesday (11/12) I met him. I had just gotten off the E train and was walking to school. I saw him (a white dude with flavor) on the phone in the distance. I played it cool when I walked by him, you know - couldn't show my desperation (lol.) As I neared him I saw him staring at me. I walked by and he said "hello." I shot a "hello" back his way and kept it moving. As I kept on walking I felt someone behind me. You know that feeling right; the feeling of someone behind you? Well I "felt" him so I took my earphones out of my ears to hear him ask "How are you miss?"... I stopped. I had nothing to lose at this point. He said "I just wanted to tell you you're fine and it's not because your black." After a brief giggle I replied "What the hell is that supposed to mean?" He proceeds to tell me that he found me attractive and that he didn't want me to think that he was saying that because of my race. We exchanged formalities and I found out that his name was "J". He asked if he could get in contact with me later and I said that was cool. Actually I said "Sure, do you have a card of something?". He replied "No I don't have a card of sun-thin", in a joking mocking way. {Gentleman take heed - if you want to get a woman's attention, make her laugh. I guarantee you that you have your "in". To stay "in" you better not f**k it up by saying something inappropriate or rude!} He asked for my number and I gave it to him and walked away. That was Wednesday and today is Sunday. No call from J - ah well.....

I went to my cousin's birthday happy hour at Fashion 40 on Friday (11/14) and had a ball. I got my dance on, my drink on, but unfortunately, not my flirt on. Why you may ask? The reason: I walked in and saw the ratio of women to men, about 7:1 - wtf was I in Lucille Roberts (lol, shout out to "Cassie")? With a ratio like that what women would want to stay? Damn, I'm mad that I even wrote that! Back in the day I went out strictly to party with my girls, to dance, drink and bug out. When I went to Fashion 40 I actually hoped that I'd hit it off with a gentleman worthy of my time. The only dude I saw was dude from(http://theinquisitive1.blogspot.com/2008/09/lightning-struck-so-wherebut-it-didnt.html) and I was not trying to get reacquainted with him; He bought me the wrong SATC DVD (which is still in the glove compartment of my car in it's original wrapping). When the hell did I become such a prowler for new male company? What happened to the days of going out to just dance, drink and bug out with my girlfriends? Ahhh, I know what happened - birthdays.... I'm getting older and the proverbial biological clock is ticking!!!!! Tick tock tock!!!

I swear it's way easier for men to meet women than for women to meet men. Men have a slew of women literally throwing themselves at them, so all they have to do is take their pick. For women, the pickings are slim. We have to worry about whether or not the men are on the DL, married or in a relationship - that's only a quarter of the battle. If they have children we have to worry about "babymamadrama", whether or not he has a good job, has his own place and if has his own vehicle. I'm just getting started! We need know about his ambition, his goals, whether or not he's motivated, whether or not he wants to get married and whether or not he wants to have kids (if he doesn't already have offspring). I'm still going people!!! I think I'll touch on a biggie: Pipe game!!!! We have to worry about how sexually compatible that man is with us. We wonder, is he romantic? Is he into cuddling? Is he into spontaneous trips? Will he cook for me? Will he give me sensual massages without being prompted to do so? Is he considerate? I'm still going (I'm like that damn bunny huh?)! Is he cheap? Is he willing to go out of his way to treat me like a queen? Will he cherish me? Can he be trusted? Will he teach me new things? I could still keep going, but I won't because it won't end.

This dating game is insane....... Whoa, I took a break while writing this and received a phone call from Mr. Brown Sugar (for his history, see http://theinquisitive1.blogspot.com/2008/09/how-to-get-over.html). Is this the week of the a**hole? Hmmmmm...... 1st Metro (he called me last Friday, Monday & Tuesday - dayum!), now B.S. So what did he want? He wanted me to join him and his intimate circle of friends for his first Thanksgiving in his new condo. Awwww, I was shocked. I admit, I am a sucker! He asked that I get back to him by Monday...... I replied yes. I think it'll be a good time...... I'll let you know how that goes.

I spoke too soon! As I am finishing this piece I have to write about the latest developments. J called me yesterday while I was at work, but I was unable to speak. He sent me a text message this evening and I told him that I'd give him a call around 9ish so we can finally catch up. We spoke........ I'll fill you in in my next piece...

It looks like I'll be a player in this dating game for a while...... I sometimes have to ask myself, "Am I willing to trade in this single life for a relationship?" I guess I'll cross that bridge when I get to it. In the meantime I'll continue to enjoy the scenic route.