You met a guy, You've been talking on the phone for the past few nights and the conversations flow effortlessly. You're feeling him and he's feeling you. After several nights of late night talking the consensual decision to go out this weekend is made; It'll be your first date.
Just as you start to put your ensemble together for dinner and a movie the phone rings.... "Hello? Hey hun, what's up?.... What's that? You don't feel like going out tonight? You'd rather I come chill at your place?" You stand there in disbelief. The nerve! What do I look like? I wanted to go out! At this point you're like "what happened to dinner? What happened to the movie? What happened to a night out on the town?" You tell him that you'll get back to him, but in the back of your mind you've already made your decision: "I'm not going over there! What the f**k do I look like?" Sound familiar?
When did hanging out at the new dude's house or worse yet, him inviting himself over to your place constitute as the first date? Whatever happened to the gentleman picking up his potential love interest from her home with a bouquet of flowers, walking her to the car, and going out for an evening of stimulating conversation?
A few weeks ago, a girlfriend of mine (Maria) met a gentleman. She met him at a party and they hit it off. It was refreshing to see her so excited, especially since it'd been a while since she'd been into a guy like this. They made plans to go out on a particular Saturday, but the roads were icy and dangerous. He proposed that they get together at his place, order a pizza and enjoy a night in. Maria didn't take to well to this, so she declined the invitation and decided to not deal with him anymore.
Was this too harsh? Is it wrong to dismiss a man because he doesn't step correct the first time? I think not! You have to set a precedent for what you want. If you settle for the okee doke, then that is what you will continue to get repeatedly.
What's your take on this?
8 comments:
I feel you on that. As women we have to have standards and not settle just for the company of a man. Once more (really ALL) women realize that, the men will have to step their game up.
Is it possible that these men had nothing, but honorable intentions? Perhaps they wanted to take the time to put together a meal for there female counterpart. Okay as I've stated my opinion I had decided to ask a female what her opinion was? She completely tore apart my idea. Told me that I was from a different era. I will admit that I'm in my early 30's. She told me that if a man invites a woman to his for a first date he is looking for some quick p@*#y. She almost mentioned that it's okay for a woman to turn down a man's invite to his place, but he can not. I felt that was unfair, but life is not. So question for you ladies and gentleman? Is a man compel to accept a woman's invite to her place first date or whenever vs. The other way around?she told me if the man were to say no he would be perceived as a f"$&**#t.
I have to agree..what happened to picking a girl up, taking her out to the movies and dinner? I mean has romance or the actual act of wooing a woman really died? ugh!
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its honestly a bloody shame... from my own personal experience i think its a terrible idea to have a first date in such a personal space!! if not for the idea that he's going to get some sex out of it, the whole idea that he should court you goes straight out the window!!! the "too comfortable" factor moves in quickly and before you know it you're wondering why your always sitting in his house on a friday and saturday night!! and at the end of the day, who's to blame... his response you were cool with it before.... as Madia's brother Joe said in diary of a mad black woman...."DON'T DO IT!, DON'T DO IT"
LOL at the last comment "Don't do it, don't do it!" Is that you taylor?
chivalry is not dead ladies!!! lol from what i understand about this situation, there were horrible traffic conditions "roads were icy and dangerous" and the two people involved had been getting along well. the woman has every right to accept or decline the invitation to a man's home, so there's no need for me to agree or disagree with her decision to opt out. however, to completely cut him off is going overboard. the exigent circumstances may have been the sole reason for the change in plans. and what exactly is the message that she is delivering to him by NEVER speaking to him again?! is this a lesson that he should remember and apply towards the next woman? if she doesn't express herself, how can he even know what the error was?
You know all he wanted was to hit that sweet yummylicious doublely boldly delicious beautiful ass of yours but its so funny how the ig gro couldn't go out on the date because of the weather but could gladly have you come to his house...Note either way the weather was bad going on the date or to his house...What does he think your a fool?
He should have been dookie slapped 10 times and then donkey kicked in the ass by you and 100 of your girlfriends...He's a damn true DUMB ASS!!!...You should take him for all the money you can get on the another date with him and then send him a "Sucka Smily Face" in the mail so he can never forget how "STUPID HE REALLY IS"...
I just really hate "Dumb Ass Ig-grows...Lyteskynn29
I agree w/ Lytskynn 100%
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