I've been a resident in Singledom, NY for the past three years or so and am ready to move! I want a change of scenery, a brighter new town if you will. A place where cream in coffee and marshmallows in hot cocoa (puns intended) is always in abundance.
What am I alluding to? The men known for treating us (meaning 'sistas') like Queens. The men synonymous with small packages, the men that lack rhythm. White men. Perhaps I was a bit too stereotypical when I commented on the size of their endowment and their ability to dance, but for the most part White men, small packages & lack of rhythm go hand and hand.
With the new year among us why not try something different, right? This is the year of change for me. I took the fake hair out my hair so that I can be au naturale, I was recently laid off and I'm out there in the job market competing with so many other qualified people. It's time that I take advantage of my single status and try something new.
A near and dear friend of mine, "CeCe" swears by White men. She's dealt with her fair share of Black men, but has since transitioned over to Vanillaville and is very content in this town. From her perspective romance is better, sex is better (her White boyfriend was one the most well endowed men she's was ever intimate with. Not only did he have a big package, but he knew how to use it). Cece went on to rave about him being the best guys she's ever dated. She's been trying to coax me towards "the light" for quite some time now, but I was always so apprehensive.
After viewing movies such as Guess Who (starring Ashton Kutcher and Zoe Saldana), Something New(starring Sanaa Lathan and David Monahan) the idea of interracial dating doesn't seem too far fetched.
I recently decided to embrace my adventurous side and proposed something fun to my girlfriends: "Maria", "Cassie", "Taylor", "Morgan", and "Dana"; I proposed we try speed dating. I assume that most of the men in attendance will be of the Caucasian race and I'm okay with that. This will be a carefree way to have a White man approach me and vice versa. At this juncture I'm looking for fun and romance in a place that I've yet to journey.
I'm curious to know how I'll handle cultural differences, being intimate with a White man, and something so simple as kissing a White man. It just may be too much for me to deal with, but I will never know until I try right? I am determined to find out if this is a myth or a fact; Whether love truly is better with men of the Caucasian Race.
I'll keep you posted!
7 comments:
Never limit yourself. Life is like a box of chocolate!! Go for it :-)~
Good point "Maria" :). I still crave my white, milk and dark chocolate. I'm just curious about vanilla too now. Hmmmmm, I am inquisitive you know - lol!!!
Is the grass necessarily greener on the other side? Do white men or any other non-African American male feel obligated to please blackwomen? These are questions that I've asked myself over the years. I'm an african male and I don't think I would treat either race differently. As mentioned in the blog "white men at times may have small packages and be with out rhythm". Perhaps these short comings forces them to rise to the occasion, no pun intended when dating black women.
Don't believe the hype girl.
Don't limit yourself, and keep your options open.
But the whole myth that white men treat black women better is just that--a myth.
I've dated PLENTY of white men. In college competition for black men was so fierce that I swore black men off for three years (plus 3 post college). I've dated the Brooklyn around the way white guy, the preppy lawyers, the jocks, the bankers. And ya know what: they're MEN! They do the same stuff black men do. They'll use you for sex. They'll get down with the one night stand. Some are sweet, some are stank. Just like black men! So, all that to say: try it out. Who knows, you may find your Prince Charming. But approach them just as they are: MEN. Don't expect him to paint your toenails or do anything out of the ordinary. After he stops ooh-ing about your 'soft skin' and telling you you're 'so hot' the novelty will be gone!
Ha!!!! Thanks for you insight "Anonymous #2". I will definitely keep your words of experience in mind!
Hey where ever you find love- more power to ya! So long as the man - dark, milk, white or vanilla or even cinnamon treat you well that is all that is important. So do you ma!
Noo Noo Stay away from the WHITE light.. Hahahaha.. What ever floats your boat. Since I am a Male and have never dated a White guy I don't know what to tell you. But yeah for them white women...
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